Marrying Later in Life http://marryinglaterinlife.com A Source for Mature Brides Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:12:10 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 The Steps We Take to Buy a Dress… http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/02/15/the-steps-we-take-to-buy-a-dress/ http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/02/15/the-steps-we-take-to-buy-a-dress/#comments Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:12:10 +0000 Elizabeth James Berberich http://marryinglaterinlife.com/?p=1555 We found it so hard to search and find the perfect dress for each of us to wear at our wedding.

There were so many beautiful gowns and styles to choose from, but  where do you begin? As we talk about in length in our book, it is all about first, defining your style. What feels and looks best on you. Neither one of us wanted to feel like we were “dressing up,” but rather extending into our wedding style of dress, our everyday style. Not a dress in a magazine or on a mannequin, but a dress that “looked” just like us!

That is one of the hints when you find yourself dress shopping. Choose a dress that best fits your wedding style, stature and looks. It’s amazing! You will feel and know which dress is right as soon as you slip it on.

So have fun. Don’t get upset. There is the perfect dress or outfit waiting to be chosen by  you. It may even be hidden in your closet,  like a mutual friend of ours experienced. She decided to wear her Mother’s!

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

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This was just in the Huffington Post!

Did you know that since 1996, National Marriage Week, and its complete counterpart, National Marriage Week USA, have aimed to spread awareness about the value of marriage? What a wonderful fact to know and this week falls on Valentine’s Day! Even more reason to celebrate!

Many professional organizations and wedding consultants provide seminars, classes and  other resources to promote weddings.

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

 

 

 

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Today there was an article in the paper about Singles in America. It was a study taken by a marketing research firm of Match.com.

There were many interesting results and comments from single women & men. One woman who declared she was “over 50,” said  marriage didn’t hold those threatening senses of being controlled and contained in a relationship at this stage of her life. Instead, marriage felt like a nice, ceremonial thing that means you are going to grow old with someone. An interesting view of marriage, although I do believe many older couples do marry for companionship, especially if they are widowed.

The survey found the following top five deal breakers today in relationships:

1. Disheveled or unclean appearance

2. Laziness

3. Being too needy

4. Lacking a sense of humor

5. GUD Geographically undesirable because of the 3+hours between them.

As we reflect on our marriages, non of these qualities were the “buts” for us not get married. However when we were dating, they were deal busters!

If you are single, think about what are deal breakers for you!

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

 

 

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In the Roman version, Cupid was the son of Venus (goddess of love) and Mars (god of war).  In the Greek version he was named Eros and seen as one of the primordial gods. Cupid was often depicted with wings, a bow, and a quiver of arrows. The following story of Cupid and Psyche is almost identical in both cultures; the most familiar version is found in the Metamorphoses of Apuleius. When Cupid’s mother Venus became jealous of the princess Psyche, who was so beloved by her subjects that they forgot to worship Venus, she ordered Cupid to make Psyche fall in love with the vilest thing in the world. While Cupid was sneaking into her room to shoot Psyche with a golden arrow, he accidentally scratched himself with his own arrow and fell deeply in love with her.
As it is getting close to Valentine’s Day the “special day” when you are to celebrate your Mr. Wonderful and he to celebrate you, I thought the story of cupid was appropriate to include in our blog. It’s funny the way life works out  and the six degrees of separation that divides us all. The world indeed seems to shrink. It’s almost as if I was suppose to meet my Mr. Wonderful when I did and how I did. Please share your story of how you met your cupid. Did he nip himself with a golden arrow and just fall head over heels in your direction?
Hugs,
Elizabeth & Marsha
www.marryinglaterinlife.com
]]> http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/29/the-steps-we-take-to-celebrate-valentines-day/feed/ 0 A Posey Alternative to Fresh Flowers http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/24/a-posey-alternative-to-fresh-flowers/ http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/24/a-posey-alternative-to-fresh-flowers/#comments Tue, 24 Jan 2012 20:54:11 +0000 Elizabeth James Berberich http://marryinglaterinlife.com/?p=1513 Having your bridal bouquet or posey made out of real flowers isn’t the only choice when deciding on what to hold in your hands as you walk down the aisle. Sentimental family heirlooms or traditional cultural customs will bring powerful symbolism and meaning to your wedding day ceremony. A family bible that has been passed down for years, a lacy handkerchief carrying your rosary beads or cross, or a treasured container filled with a family heirloom will hold tremendous meaning to you and your  background and traditions. As we are Irish, an old Irish custom is for the bride to carry a horseshoe for good luck. In our family, the horseshoe is tied with a ribbon that trails to the ground as the bride walks. Afterwards, it is always added to the front door of the couple’s home to keep their love alive!

Do you have a favorite symbol that you and Mr. Wonderful would like to include in your wedding day walk down the aisle? We would love to hear your thoughts!

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

 

 

]]> http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/24/a-posey-alternative-to-fresh-flowers/feed/ 0 The Steps for Last Minute Wedding Planning http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/02/the-steps-for-last-minute-wedding-planning/ http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2012/01/02/the-steps-for-last-minute-wedding-planning/#comments Mon, 02 Jan 2012 22:03:15 +0000 Elizabeth James Berberich http://marryinglaterinlife.com/?p=1500 We just became acquainted with a new web site called www.briderush.com. As one of us didn’t plan very far ahead for our wedding, knowing about such a wonderful web site such as Bride Rush, would have been an ideal resource had we needed last minute help in finding reputable venders to create our style.

Do hope everyone had a wonderful New Years! All the best for 2012.

We look forward to hearing from you!

Hugs, Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

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Have you ever thought about how you take off your shoes? Is it always the same, or do you have a different pattern? Studying people’s dis-shoeing has always been a fascinating study for me. I always wondered if it had something to do with one’s personality. I have noticed my Mr. Wonderful’s unveiling, as well as other close friends when they visit us. The pattern is pretty much the same. Mr. W’s always has his shoes precisely  placed side by side by side. Even when he is tired, the precision is always the same. However that goes back to the profession he has chosen to follow. One that is very precise and non forgiving if he was in error.

I am attaching the way I always take off my shoes. Perhaps it is because I was a ballet dancer when I was younger, or  just a non thinking, artful way of disposing of my shoes. That may be because I am more left brained and at odds with my husbands precise placement of the furniture in our home. I am an angler and he is for establishing exact measurements on each side of a chair or picture. Granted I never thought much about it until I started observing people. Sort of like certain photographers that will remain a mystery at this point. In any event, it hasn’t stopped my curiosity to make it a point to feature shoes for our posts.

However with my Mr. Wonderful, it hasn’t impacted our relationship. Some issues to challenge are just not that important in the scheme of things. Precision versus a bit off balanced has not been an issue. There are bigger things to discuss.

Hugs and a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays to all!

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaerinlife.com

]]> http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/22/shoes-what-they-say-about-you/feed/ 0 Blending Families During the Holidays http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/21/blending-families-during-the-holidays/ http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/21/blending-families-during-the-holidays/#comments Wed, 21 Dec 2011 16:19:40 +0000 Elizabeth James Berberich http://marryinglaterinlife.com/?p=1484 Holidays…..blending families at this time is always the most challenging aspect of marrying later in life. Holidays are a time when memories and sensitivities run deep. Thus, adding new families into the mix can often cause scheduling challenges and hurt feelings as traditions change with new members to consider. Breathe…. There can be some hiccups, but with careful planning and sharing each families traditions, you can create your own new traditions with your extended families. The most important point is to see and listen to all the dynamics each new family member remembers most. Was it opening some gifts Christmas Eve? Attending church that night then sharing dinner together? A brunch on Christmas Day.  Be sensitive to their most cherished memories and try to incorporate them into your own version. Discuss all the options openly with Mr. Wonderful, and decide on a new tradition where everyone can be involved at one point over the holidays, without taking away their own memories.

One of us has a traditional Christmas Eve open house. It allows family members to share a moment with your family, then continue their own traditions. Our family tradition is church, then we host a Christmas Eve dinner for those children and families in town. It is usually every other year  we are all together for either Thanksgiving or Christmas. And as we are all realizing as the years pass, how quickly those years go!

Another new tradition we share with family close by, is making our celebrated Christmas nut blend together. It is a day long affair with the girls making the nuts, and the boys, hanging lights and watching football games. That way everyone has a good time and there are no Bickerson’s in the crowd, just laughter and the warmth and love the holiday brings just being together.

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.

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It was a sad commentary for marriage vows and commitments the other day when we heard on the news that 10 years ago, 71 % of people cohabiting were married. Today it hovers around 50%. Thus marriages are declining in our society, giving way to people living together without the bond or the commitment of marriage. It reminded me of my husband’s comment the night we were married. Although he proposed to me shortly after we met, at the time, he knew that marriage was significantly more important to me than it was to him. However, the night we were married, and after the ceremony and partying had come to an end and we were safely back in our hotel room, he sat me down in our chair.  At that moment, he said  he didn’t realize how much more connected to me he felt through our commitment of marriage. We both felt an amazing bond of connection and protection for each other that neither one of us had felt with our first marriages. Marrying Later in Life gave us a bond and a commitment to each other, that went much deeper than we both imagined.

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

]]> http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/19/the-steps-we-take-to-marrying/feed/ 2 The Steps to Planning a Second Wedding http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/03/the-steps-to-planning-a-second-wedding/ http://marryinglaterinlife.com/2011/12/03/the-steps-to-planning-a-second-wedding/#comments Sun, 04 Dec 2011 02:47:33 +0000 Elizabeth James Berberich http://marryinglaterinlife.com/?p=1455 Ladies,

We wanted to share a new Wedding show airing on WEtv, tomorrow, Sunday night, December 4th at 10PM PS/ES.

 

 

Called #IDoOver, the show is hosted by well known wedding planner Diann Valentine.Wildflower linens will be featuring their incredible table designs and wedding accessories, and my friend Cheryl Dent will be sharing her expertise from the  Celebrations website, for ideas on “saying I do again to getting married!”

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

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